Often times SHAME can trap us in our struggle. SHAME is a powerful, painful and heavy burden to be pinned under.
As we navigate this uncertain, turbulent, opinionated and anxious time we are either very consciously aware of how much it is rocking us or getting a glimpse of moments where we recognize the underlying shaking of the foundations we have built our present selves and certainties on.
With our HUSTLE driven culture it is easy to get trapped into owning SHAME. SHAME because you are struggling. There is even shame in admitting to the struggle.
Our culture worships at the alter of grit and perseverance.
We apparently will sleep when we are dead.
We know stuff.
We know with every obstacle comes opportunity.
That we can choose to grow, get ahead, or give in and fall behind.
That the biggest thing standing in the way is ourselves.
All great, well meaning and required attitudes to grow and conquer.
But you can’t get ahead or get anywhere when you are shackled to shame over the fact that you have your doubts, you struggle, you fall short, don’t always make the cut and can’t always stay focused on the bright side. Frustration, anger and shame can easily become our closest companions when we reach the end of ourselves.
I DO NOT believe we have endless capacity.
We have a cap.
We will and do wear thin.
We fall flat, come up short.
Reaching the end of our limited capacity sucks. But it brings us face to face with our humanity. It can be a blessing and answer to prayer.
One gift my faith has taught me is SHAME is not of God. Shame has a way of pinning you down, trapping you, suffocating you and the more you let it pile up sometimes the harder it is to find the strength to be freed from in. You either live an exhausting life trying to out due, outwit or one up shame OR exhaustion comes from camping out under the weight of shame for far too long. The cornerstone of my faith is the light that comes and makes the darkness of SHAME flee.
It is GRACE.
Freely given forgiveness, not earned or worked for but offered by and given as a gift that anyone anywhere is free to receive. (See Romans 3:24)
We are human.
Lack of control and uncertainty is hard and sometimes we heavily lean on unhealthy devices to mitigate our inability to fully cope. Don’t be fooled nobody is navigating this properly or perfectly, nobody on this side of heaven has all the answers. It is OK to struggle. There is no SHAME in the struggle.