Going on a wellness journey is all about really taking a HARD look at those tools. Being honest and asking the tough questions around whether your tools have been building wellness or tearing it down in your life?
Identifying destructive behaviour patterns is initially painful because you become AWARE of your slip ups but you feel incompetent when it comes to dealing with them. Successful tool replacement involves the willingness to see the vulnerability through and the belief that it will be worth it and your efforts will pay off! You need to concede that you will not have it instantly all figured. Figuring it out means a commitment to gracefully navigate the continuous effort needed to break through.
When you put together your toolkit is it not like you go out and buy brand new tools all at once. You slowly build up and upgrade your existing tool case.
STOP believing there is some sort of magical switch, where you wake up one day and Santa Claus himself gifts you with a BRAND NEW fully loaded set of tools to do life with. With consistent effort you will upgrade your tool box. As you learn and grow you will reach in and grab an old familiar ineffective tool – all you have to do is recognize when you have done it – toss it and don’t be so surprised when it finds it’s way back in your tool box along your journey. Wellness is not allowing defeat to settle, disappointment is certain just don’t let it make a home.
Keep your head up and keep recognizing what you don’t want to keep and continue tossing it until you one day realize your OLD familiar, frustrating go to tool is no longer there, it has been replaced by a tool that builds your wellness as opposed to tearing it down.