RE-WRITE YOUR ANTHEM

MUSICI am so thankful for music and what it does to the mind and in turn the body.  It has a way of firing us up and turning our attitudes around.  With some mighty goals set for my year ahead I know getting my head right (especially on the days that I do not feel like it) is paramount to accomplishing a goal.  I love the Jim Rohn quote

“For things to change you have to change. For things to get better you have to get better.”

Moving to a NEW point requires us to re-write and wire the anthem we play about ourselves in our head daily.  That is going to take some work, some repetition. Having a plan is not good enough (it is important) but it is not enough.  Accomplishment is reserved for those who execute the well thought out plan.  The plan may change as you go because through execution you gain wisdom and insight but no amount of thinking about it will provide the same results as DOING it!!!

When I do not feel like it I default to prayer, worship music, and high energy tunes with lyrics that reinforce the right mindset.  I may even get crazy and jump up and down and shout out loud and then use that Mel Robbins 5 second rule and count down from 5 and execute.

5…4….3…2…1… do it…get to work.

My current get your assets moving tunes to help reenforce the anthem I am declaring over the next year can be found below.

Run Run – The Rivals 

Make Way – Aloe Blacc (ego aside on this one – I want to make an IMPACT – leave a legacy)

High Hopes – Panic! At the Disco

Multiplied – NEED TO BREATH

Could Have Been Me – The Struts 

Get Your Hopes Up – Josh Baldwin

You Can’t Stop Me – Andy Mineo

What tunes are fuelling your anthem over the coming year???

 

 

 

 

When You Recognize Your Toolbox Sucks

tool boxWellness is all about collecting the right tools. We all have our go to tools that we have collected and used for many, many years.

Going on a wellness journey is all about really taking a HARD look at those tools. Being honest and asking the tough questions around whether your tools have been building wellness or tearing it down in your life?

Identifying destructive behaviour patterns is initially painful because you become AWARE of your slip ups but you feel incompetent when it comes to dealing with them. Successful tool replacement involves the willingness to see the vulnerability through and the belief that it will be worth it and your efforts will pay off! You need to concede that you will not have it instantly all figured. Figuring it out means a commitment to gracefully navigate the continuous effort needed to break through.

When you put together your toolkit is it not like you go out and buy brand new tools all at once. You slowly build up and upgrade your existing tool case.

STOP believing there is some sort of magical switch, where you wake up one day and Santa Claus himself gifts you with a BRAND NEW fully loaded set of tools to do life with. With consistent effort you will upgrade your tool box. As you learn and grow you will reach in and grab an old familiar ineffective tool – all you have to do is recognize when you have done it – toss it and don’t be so surprised when it finds it’s way back in your tool box along your journey. Wellness is not allowing defeat to settle, disappointment is certain just don’t let it make a home.

Keep your head up and keep recognizing what you don’t want to keep and continue tossing it until you one day realize your OLD familiar, frustrating go to tool is no longer there, it has been replaced by a tool that builds your wellness as opposed to tearing it down.

When The Dream Is Hard

WHEN DREAMING IS HARD (2)When the dream is hard.

Remember…

It is supposed to be. Passivity produces nothing worth writing home about.

Remember…

The view from the mountain top is in proportion to the terrain you were willing to transverse to get there.

Remember….

It is not about what you will GET but what you are willing to GIVE.  Your dream is worth it when it is an answer to someone else’s prayer not just your own.

Remember…

You can’t teach what you don’t know. The wisdom needed to keep climbing is a dreamers greatest gift.

Remember…

You have all you need.  Do not let the spirit of lack convince you, you are missing what you need to keep going.

Remember…

People can’t help but poke holes in your dream in order to justify and reinforce their own decisions to stay put, settle and stop dreaming.

Remember….

Do not be afraid of imperfections. Your most attractive human quality is your imperfections. The appearance of perfection is like repellant. Your authenticity will win favour.

Remember….

Never despise small beginnings.

Remember…

Settling certainly is an option….but you were not made to settle.

Remember….

Two mindsets reside in the human brain upon waking.  You get to decide which one you train up and give a VOICE. The one convincing you to lay down your weapons in the midst of the battle or the one that reminds you of the GOOD you are fighting for.

Remember….

Your life depends on it.  Proverbs 13:12 ”Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”

 

In Search Of Rock Flippers

IN SEARCH OF ROCK FLIPPERS (1)

As a kid I was once shown that you could find a spotted salamander under rocks at a pond near my home. The first time a friend found one I was amazed. I would spend hours flipping over rocks to find salamanders!

Flip nope,
flip…nope…..
flip…nope….
maybe the next one is the “one”
…..flip….nope…keep flipping.

A whole day not a single salamander….did not stop me…

Guess where you found me the next day?

Flipping over more rocks. Guess what I eventually found?

I think the eagerness and wonder of being a child is easily lost in adulthood. We somewhere along the line decide to settle, play it safe, shrink our vision, and prescribe to a common way of doing things. We flip over a couple of rocks or even just sit back and witness others flipping rocks with less than desirable results so we default back to scepticism. We stop flipping over rocks and we congregate with others that have stopped flipping over rocks to support our decision to move out of CHILD like wonder and into “responsible” adulthood.

Last year this hard core sceptic started flipping over some rocks again.

I followed my heart and started a new wellness-prenuer adventure. Along the way I found some amazingly inspiring rock flippers. People that proved that as long as you kept flipping rocks you would find what you were looking for. Families that are home-schooling their kids as they travel the world. Single moms who figured out a way to quit their extra part time job and spend more time with their kids and be able to afford vacations. Lifetime rock flippers that are smiling ear to ear and whistling while they work long after they “should have retired” because they are having too much fun to stop!

I am running into a lot of people that have been curious about what I have been up to. The other day I found myself explaining it to somebody using this rock flipping analogy. I have basically been flipping rocks over looking for other child-like rock flippers who in turn join me as we multiply our efforts and treat life like the adventure it is.

Although the “start-up cost” is laughable it’s the worldly grip of scepticism that will rob most of their potential.

It is simple.

Those willing to let go of their grasp on scepticism and find others willing to do the same find the most spotted salamanders!

Scepticism can be overcome, one rock flip at a time.

If you feel me on this thought process I believe it would be in your best interest to connect with me and see if you can get in on one of my informative webinar about this year’s adventures; My heart’s desire is to add more rock flippers to the world. Anybody and everybody is welcome. As June closes and I look ahead I am leading our global team to new exciting heights culminating in an EPIC January 2019 celebration!!! The “best seats” go to those that show up first. Message me if you are ready to learn more and want a spot on a call sometime.

Sincerely, A converted sceptic excited about the future having the most FUN I have been having in a long time —> looking for the same!

Got A New Year Monkey On Your Back?

monkey

It is exciting to dream; to pursue a goal. However the moment you do you inevitably encounter opposition from the people around you.

Example:

New Year!

You: All excited motivated and working towards a dream or goal.

Them: Pointing out all the faults, making insinuations about your past failed attempts or even pointing out other people’s failed attempts. Generally (either unknowingly or purposefully) bursting your motivational bubble.

Why?

Often it is because they gave up on what you are still holding onto hope for.   Sometimes they learned their “give up” posture from personal experience, sometimes it was handed down to them through their influences.

I cannot recall which John Maxwell book I read about this experiment in, but it has always stuck with me.

We are not monkeys.  But sometimes we act like monkeys.  Experimenters placed four moneys in a habitat. At the top of one of the poles there were some nice ripe bananas ready for consumption.  However whenever a monkey climbed the pole to retrieve the banana the experimenters would knock them off the pole with a blast of water. Every monkey gave it continuous attempts only to be knocked off ever time.  Eventually all the monkeys had given up and would no longer make attempts to retrieve the bananas.

Introduce a NEW monkey that had not been privy to all the failed attempts.  Interestingly as soon as the new monkey would start to make an attempt to get the bananas all the other monkeys would get really vocal, they would rush to the pole and pull the new monkey down until you guessed it … the new monkey stopped attempting to reach the bananas.  Note: this NEW monkey never had the negative reinforcement of the water blast.   Eventually the experiment introduced ALL new monkeys and completely replaced the four originally monkeys. All the new monkeys who had never experienced or even witnessed the water blast would no longer make attempts to get at the bananas.

The way I see it. As that New Year’s ball drops in time square ever year some of us monkeys get brave enough to make another go at that pole.  Even though the world has taught us that our attempts are futile we feel a little hope rise in us and we think this time might be different. The other monkeys sit back, fearful, stuck on old mindsets, convincing themselves that trying again will result in the same old, same old.  They see you dash for the pole and they think you are crazy!

“What you doing that for????”

“Have we not tried that already?”

“You remember what happen the last time?”

“I heard my sister’s friend did that and it ended horribly”

“Why don’t you just stay here with me, where it’s comfortable, I gave up on that a long time ago”

“Life is meant to be enjoyed, I do not need to go through the stress of another failed attempt.”

Hey to be fair some of the monkeys just have well intentions, they have been burned and they do not want you to get burned too. But would in not be awful for the monkeys to witness you climb all the way to the top and grab your prize without the interference?

What would that say about their choice to stay put?

How would they have to re-evaluate their choices?

If you were the monkey deciding to stay put it would just be easier if every other monkey decided the same thing as you.

Dreaming big, aiming high?  Don’t let that monkey on your back hold you back.  Distract them, change the subject and when they are not looking snatch those bananas and show them what is possible.  Don’t take it personal. They are just focused on all the ways it could go wrong, hence their decision to stay put.  So when someone starts trying to poke holes in what you are doing just knowingly nod. Ah…. another fallen monkey.

monkey pic